It really could be. The best part is, it's up to you.
This year has been such a learning experience for me and I would like to share some things that may be helpful if you are feeling stuck.
I'd like to think that I am generally a happy, optimistic person. That's kind of how I've always been, but everybody goes through things that leave them feeling a little less like themselves. I experienced this recently. I struggled through some obstacles that left me feeling down and lost for a time. Some changes I wasn't prepared for occurred and I tried to accept them but it was hard. The good news is, although it was hard, it was possible. And who I am today can say that the things that once had me down haven't changed BUT my attitude has and that attitude has led me to where I am now, happier.
I may not have all the answers to happiness but I can fill you in on some thoughts and things that have helped me get back on the path to a joyful life.
(Keep in mind these are my personal opinions. You don't have to agree with them, but I thank you for reading them anyhow.)
1. Understand that nobody's life is perfect. Everybody faces hardships whether or not they make it apparent. So when something difficult comes your way, know you're not the only one, and it's an inevitable part of life. It is also a necessary part of life. For if we don't experience difficult things, we cannot grow to become the best versions of ourselves. Complete happiness is only achievable by going through great struggles. From a Christian stand point I see it like this,
God doesn't give us trials because He wants us to struggle and be miserable. He gives them to us because He wants us to grow to be closer to Him.
2. Realize that many things are out of your control but your attitude is not. Sometimes life throws us for loops that are often out of our hands. It can be frustrating (I know) and you may ask yourself "why me?". But a very valuable lesson I have learned is that just because something bad or sad happens to you doesn't mean you have to react badly or sadly. Yes, it is natural to grieve and feel pain. I even think it's important that we do so because it helps us realize just how good the good is. But the problems form when we dwell on those negative feelings. Negative thoughts and words lead to negative words and actions. Which leads me to number 3...
3. Understand the power of your words. Words are powerful tools in our lives. We can use them for the good or the bad, it's up to us. If you speak negative words about yourself or others you will only end up with negative results. I've been reading a book called "I Declare" by Joel Osteen which really dives into this theory... but basically, if something bad happens to you, rather than saying things like "I have the worst luck" "I'm a terrible person" "Why can't I do anything right?" "I'll never catch my break" "I'll never be good enough" do just the opposite. Say "Today something unfortunate happened but tomorrow will be great" "I am smart" "I have so much potential" I will do great things" "I am beautiful" "I am and will be successful" "I will grow from that bad experience" "I will be better because of it" because believe it or not folks, you will become what you speak. I heard this spectacular story when I took sociology and would like to share my version of it with you,
In 1968 right after Martin Luther King Jr. was murdered, a 3rd grade teacher decided to do an experiment with her students to teach them about discrimination. She divided her class in half, blue eyed kids on one side, and brown eyed kids on the other.She then told the blue eyed children that they were smarter, nicer, neater, and better than those with brown eyes.She followed that by telling the brown eyed children just the opposite, not giving them any praise, only pointing out their mistakes. Almost instantly the children changed. Brown eyed kids that were once smart and interactive started to distance themselves from others and performed poorly on class assignments. All the while the blue eyed children began to act like they were better than the brown eyed kids, treating them differently. The blue eyed kids truly believed they were superior and smarter simply because the teacher told them so. In the end she explained the experiment to the children and told them that they are all equal and full of potential but do you see the power of words here and just how much they affect people?
So it's not just how you speak of yourself. It's how you speak of others too. Can you imagine how much happier the world would be if we only spoke positive things to ourselves and others? The good news is, we can do our part to make this a reality.
I promise if you start wishing good things for yourself and those around you, good things will come. You may have to go through some hard stuff , maybe you are going through it right now, but it doesn't have to break you. Use your trials as an opportunity to speak even more good things into your life because they WILL come and you will be happier. I can testify to it.
Thank you for reading my thoughts on the matter, I hope they help you bring more joy into your life. Realizing all of these things has truly helped me.
"You've got to send your words out in the direction you want your life to go. You cannot talk defeat and expect victory. You can't talk lack and expect to have abundance. You will produce what you say." -Joel Osteen: I Declare-31 Promises to Speak Over Your Life
Today could be the best day of your life.