5 In Sugar


Life comes in seasons, in cycles. The best thing we can do is just roll with it.

Happy first day of fall everyone! I have a message for yall that has been on my heart.

I did an awesome women's bible study group last fall about the seasons of life and never really had the chance to share my experience. So now that the season is changing it feels like a golden time. : )

The study I did by Laurie Cole taught me the importance of every season of life. The good, the sad, the angry, the plentiful, the empty... and why all of it is necessary. All of it is inevitable. We compared our personal, emotional, and spiritual seasons to the phsyical seasons of the world. I learned that often times they go hand in hand, but not always. During the study we had to do an exercise where we drew a timeline of our lives and acknowledged the different seasons we had been through. It was so fascinating to see the ups and downs all right in front of me, and I realized then that if it weren't for some of the really bad things I experienced, the summers they led me to would not have been anywhere near as AWESOME.

For example,

I dated this guy right out of high school who I thought was funny, nice, cute, the whole nine yards. In the end I learned that he was not the person he was making himself out to be for me. He was putting on an act to try to win me and it worked for a while but when I discovered the real version of him I felt very hurt and well.. niave. I felt so much bitterness towards the situation at the moment but as time passed and I looked back, I saw that if it wasn't for that crumby relationship I would not be where I am today. Let's throw this into perspective a little;

Because of him I made a friend named Jillian, who led me to making a friend named KayKay, who led me to accidentally meeting a boy named Tanner, who I dated for 3 years(and am still great friends with), who taught me how to play guitar ,who introduced me to some of my very best friends, who's mom invited me to the bible study class that I am now talking about with yall. So you see, If that stupid relationship didn't happen, Sugar & Spice may not have existed, I may not be writing music, I may not be living in Utah, I may not know some of my very best friends, and sooo much more. Looking at all of these beautiful things that fell into place because of one crappy relationship just makes me want to hug that guy who was a bad boyfriend. (haha) 

Moral of the story is:

It's easy to feel bitter and angry when you are stuck in the relentless dead of winter, but if you can learn to be content in that time and trust that it is happening because you have really really really awesome things in store, you will be so much happier!

So my challenge for you pretty people is to trust that every season of life is important and to embrace your worst moments for they are preparing you for your best. 

And lastly, remember that seasons will always change and that should be a hopeful thing, not a scary one.

Thanks for reading. I leave you with these verses.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

King James Version (KJV)

3 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;

A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.


xx Madeline

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  • Monika
    September 22, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    ”An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to launch you into something great.” 🙂

  • MarMinietto
    September 22, 2013 at 4:28 pm

    So if you didn't meet that guy, you wouldn't know Jillian. If you didn't know Jillian you wouldn't know KayKay. If you never met KayKay you've never known Tanner. If Tanner never dated you I've never known you. And Sugar And Spice wouldn't exist. If Sugar And Spice didn't exist I wouldn't be here telling you that I'm so thankful I found Madeline Becker because she's such a nice girl and thanks to Madeline I know who KayKay is. And nowadays I love you both a lot and I love this blog, I visit it everyday, not just because of the amazing outfits you make but the great things you post about life, love, music, experiences and more. xo

  • MarMinietto
    September 22, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    sorry about my bad grammar haha 🙂

  • KayKay Blaisdell
    KayKay Blaisdell
    September 24, 2013 at 7:57 pm

    It's so crazy how everything works out! I'm so glad that we met even though it sucked how it happened... it's totally worth it. You had to put up with one dumb boyfriend but gained like 29034823 new friends. So I think it was a fair trade. 🙂

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