We’re all trying to get somewhere. Setting goals along the way helps push us in the right direction. After all, how can you accomplish anything if you don’t know what it is you want to accomplish?
1. CHANGE IS AVAILABLE - MAKE IT IF YOU WANT IT
If you are unhappy with where you live, where you work, who you’re with or what your habits are, realize these things are in your control, meaning you can change them if you really want to. SO if you really want to, do it. And if you’re unhappy with the new change, change again until you find yourself happy. Life is too short and has too many good people and good opportunities for us to be anything but shining little beams of joy.
2. ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO DO
Pull out that dusty bucket list, pick a few things and do them. (REALLY DO THEM) It’s kind of a contagious feeling, accomplishing goals. You just need to flick that first domino to get things going and once you do, you’ll find yourself wanting to get out and do more. WHICH IS A GOOD THING. DOING IS FANTASTIC AND LIBERATING. DO DO DO
3. SAY SORRY AND ACCEPT SORRYS
Clear the air with any unsettled disagreements or relationships. It’s better for everyone this way and you’ll find it takes a weight off of your shoulders you may not have even known you were carrying.
4. BE SOCIAL
Isn’t it kind of strange that we walk side by side with tons of people every day, experiencing life, doing the same things, yet we completely ignore each other? Think of the world as a library and the people within it as it’s books. People, like books have many chapters consisting of different trials, triumphs, stories, and answers to questions. They want to be read and connected with. And the more you read, the more you know and in turn are capable of. So take that step and engage with people at appropriate times. You never know what you could learn or how you could help somebody. Being social has the ability to expand everyone involved.
5. REDUCE CLUTTER
Organizing your schedule, your house, your car, your mind, and whatever else is in need takes a lot of stress out of life. This is something I’ve actually been working on for a couple of months now and maybe my tactic will work for you. I set aside a day every week, usually Tuesdays, and declare it “Re-Evaluation Day”. I use this day to do little chores I’ve been putting off like laundry, grocery shopping, responding to emails, and other seemingly boring grown up (but mandatory) stuff. I also take this time to catch up and organize myself, as weird as it sounds. I pray, write down recent feelings, work out thoughts or problems, read and set little goals. An appropriate amount of YOU time is not selfish, it is in my opinion necessary for a sane and happy life.
I’ve found that my re-evaluation days make the rest of my week more enjoyable. Also being productive in itself has rewards.
6. SET THE PHONE DOWN-PARTICIPATE IN THE REAL WORLD
I’ve been trying to work on this but in 2014 I’m really going to push it. Think about your favorite tv shows, how often do you see the characters on their cell phones? Hardly ever right? Think about all the hilarious, heartwarming, and insightful conversations and notions you would have missed had they have been sitting at home on their computers or on a restaurant toilet checking their social media long after doing their deeds. Although I do believe social media has it perks (I am a blogger after all), I whole-heartedly believe we are heavenly creatures on the earth, not spawns of the internet. The internet cannot love us back nor hug us, but people can. Think about that.
7. FOCUS ON THE THINGS THAT TRULY MATTER
“I used to be afraid of failing at something that really mattered to me, but now I’m more afraid of succeeding at things that don’t matter.” –Bob Goff Love Does
What is your ultimate goal in life? What brings you the most joy?
Are you the you you want to be? If not, how can you get there?
I say start by looking at the things you do on the daily. Are they compatible with your end goal? If not, maybe it’s time to refocus your energy.
8. BE BRAVE-LET YOURSELF ACT GROW AND FEEL
Don’t try to fight your feelings and promptings, try to understand them. They are there for a reason.
That being said, it’s time to stop allowing room for “what could have been”’s. Wasting time not saying how you feel or going after what you want is for the past, not the now, not the tomorrows. So start being brave and stop holding yourself back from opportunity. Start saying yes to things and stop turning down because you can’t 100% predict the outcomes.
“Living a life fully engaged and full of whimsy is something most people plan to do, but along the way they just kind of forget. Their dreams become one of those "we'll go there next time" deferrals. The sad thing is, for many there is no "next time" because passing on the chance to cross over is an overall attitude toward life rather than a single decision.” - Bob Goff Love Does
9. BUDGET & FINCANCES
Money, It cannot buy happiness BUT we do need it to survive. It can also offer security and a peace of mind if you budget in a way that allows you to save, take care of bills, purchase life necessities and enjoy some amenities of the world with your friends and family.
10. TRY GIVING YOURSELF AWAY
This last goal is inspired by a book I’m reading called Try Giving Yourself Away (imagine that).
There are many ways to give yourself away. Some may jump to donating money to a charity which is great but as this book has enlightened me, it’s more about giving time and attention.
As the book has challenged me, I challenge you to try doing more for others. Things like leaving little notes, complimenting strangers, acknowledging others’ work, paying for the guy’s food behind you in a drive-thru. It’s things like these that start fires in the hearts of men. Things like these that are the underdogs in changing the world for the better.
Since really considering the idea, I have recently stepped outside of my comfort zone in attempts to test the art of giving myself away. What I’ve found is a world of whimsy and warmth.
In one incidence, I was eating alone at a restaurant and happened to notice another girl my age eating by herself. I had this unexplainable, overwhelming feeling that she was in need of a friend. I felt prompted to ask if I could join her for dinner. I was initially excited by the thought but then started thinking of all the logical reasons why it was a bad idea. I started worrying about being rejected and embarrassed but quickly realized how selfish my doubts were. So despite the potential awkwardness I decided to give it a shot. She was caught off guard at my unorthodox request but agreed and seemed genuine about it! Can you believe it? So I walked back across the restaurant, picked up all my food and moved to her table. We spent maybe a half hour or so getting to know each other and she turned out to be a really cool girl! I'm glad I acted on the impulse and made a new friend. If you’re reading this Kendall, thank you for letting me sit with you.
“The secret of successfully giving yourself away lies not so much in calculated actions as in cultivating friendly, warm-hearted impulses. You have to train yourself to obey giving impulses on the instant -- before they get a chance to cool. When you give impulsively, something happens inside of you that makes you glow, sometimes for hours.”
― David Dunn