7 In Spice

Expectations Vs. Reality

I plan full conversations in my mind when I can’t sleep at night. Of things I’ll never say, things I’ll never hear, and things I’ll never let leave the safe solitary of my mind. Maybe it’s because I get caught up in my thoughts of how I would desire them to go vs. the reality of how they actually would play out. If I let these thoughts leave my mind, I enter a world of expectations vs. reality. A world of potential possibilities and disappointments. That’s why these conversations remain deep-seated in my mind. For fear my expectations won’t meet my reality.

But, I shouldn't live that way. I shouldn't live in fear of my own expectations.

"Things didn’t work out because, well, greater things were in the works. It’s so difficult while we’re blind and hurting and don’t know which way is up. But, if you have faith in anything, have faith in the fact that the universe has a beautiful way of straightening things out far better than we ever could. You may not see it today or tomorrow, but you will look back in a few years and be absolutely perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful– or where you always wanted to be. You will be grateful that things didn’t work out the way you once wanted them to."

Things don't work out sometimes how we imagine. Sometimes we can't even figure out the reason why. But, we can't let this fear hinder us from doing things we desire.

Say what you want to say. Do what you want to do. Be who you want to be. Don't let the fear of what could happen or what might not stand in your way.

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  • Emma Nelson
    Emma Nelson
    September 3, 2013 at 6:03 pm

    It's funny because I do the same thing at night! I always rethink all the relationships I have with the people around me. I always think what I could of done better, what I should of said or done. In the end, everything happens for a reason ( what I always like to say)! There's a reason why I say and do what I do! I have great relationships with my friends and family and everything is good. The end result of my actions I might not have liked at the beginning but there's a reason why it happened the way it did! Thanks again KayKay for your words of inspiration:)
    Emma Rose

    • KayKay Blaisdell
      KayKay Blaisdell
      September 3, 2013 at 6:18 pm

      Exactly! I over-think everything. When really, I should just let them be. We have to learn to accept there's nothing we can do to change situations sometimes, but we can change the way we view it/think about it. 🙂 x

      • Emma Nelson
        Emma Nelson
        September 3, 2013 at 6:21 pm

        I like when you and madeline right these advice/life lesson blogs! It really helps me get through the day! thanks again:)

  • Emma Nelson
    Emma Nelson
    September 3, 2013 at 6:05 pm

    This post really got my mind thinking!

  • Chilla
    September 17, 2013 at 10:21 am

    You're so right!

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